For those that have followed the story of Natalie and Fred - and perhaps identified somewhat with her situation - we ought to look at associated patterns of behaviour in her life.
With the addition of a second grandchild, Fred's power has grown immeasurably - he takes advantage of Natalie's matriarchal nature to ensure that she remains constantly immersed in family matters - this way he has her just where he wants her - at home, guarded, imprisoned, abused and controlled.
Ironically, sadly, Natalie is surrounded by 'Abusers'...
The ongoing lack of support from her family and friends has further added to her 'conditioning' - Natalie literally feels that she has nowhere to turn, so she stops trying. Instead, she 'moulds' herself to the demands of everyone around her, acceding to their wishes like a puppet. She has become a "Pleaser" - someone who will do anything to elicit a positive response from another, rather than risk any kind of 'negative' that might remind her of the harsher treatments from Fred that she already denies in her life.
Even at work, Natalie succumbs to 'bullying' - a particularly nasty colleague senses her 'weakness' and mentally abuses her with threats about her job, being useless, dictating who she should mix with etc. so that she can 'keep' Natalie as a pawn in her own narcissistic 'power-play' against others who might threaten her position. Natalie needs her job, it's the only lifeline and escape to any kind of 'normal' world away from the prison that is her home-life. How sadly ironic that she should fall foul of yet another abuser, this time female, who wields her power over an already debilitated victim. Her kind and caring nature, now punctuated with bouts of pure servility, leave Natalie defenceless to anyone who wants to throw their weight around - her desire for peace and tranqulity determining that she will 'please', whatever it takes.
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